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in one of these signs, you have a Water Safety Checklist. To feel safe, you need to experience deep
emotional connections with your partner. You need to express your feelings, and you need to know what your partner is feeling. You will feel threatened by words and abstract concepts, and by boundaries that are too strong to allow emotional connections.
If you have Venus in one of these signs, you have a Water Validation Checklist. You express love and appreciation by sharing your feelings with your partner. You feel rejected and unappreciated when
your partner refuses to open up and share his or her feelings with you.
The Real Lack of Communication in Relationships
Every relationship problem is the result of a lack of safety or a lack of validation. Even though we’re ultimately responsible for meeting our own needs, we expect our partners in relationship to make regular deposits in our Safety and Validation Need Accounts.
is can be challenging if you don’t speak the same language as your partner.
You may be doing your best to make your partner feel safe and validated. But if you speak your language and your partner listens in theirs, you could be missing the mark. You need to be willing to speak your partner’s language.
If you have a Water Validation Checklist, words don’t matter to you. You communicate through
emotional and spiritual connections. You can feel loved and appreciated just by spending time with your partner watching television. As long as you experience the emotional connections, your needs are being
met. But if your partner has an Air Validation Checklist, they do need to hear the words. If you want your
partner to feel loved and appreciated, you need to tell them. Even though words don’t matter to you, words matter to your partner. And if you want your partner to meet
your needs, you need to make sure you’re meeting their needs.
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