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deposits in your Validation Needs Account and your Self-Actualization Needs Account. However, you won’t notice those deposits until you’ve met your Safety Needs.
e reason that Safety Needs and Validation Needs
matter in relationships is that these are the only needs
that can be met by other people. Once you’re out of
diapers on either end of “The reason that Safety and relationship in your life your lifespan, you meet (see Figure 3). ese your own Physiological Validation Needs matter in checklists contain the
a watchlist, Saturn makes an immediate withdrawal from the corresponding need bank account.
You have general Safety and Validation Need checklists that de ne the kinds of things that will make you feel safe and/or validated. You also have speci c Safety and
Validation Need checklists and bank accounts for each
Needs. And by de nition, you’re the only one who can make deposits in your Self-Actualization
Need account. But other people have easy access to your Safety and
speci c things you expect
relationships is that these in the relationship to validated in the context
are the only needs that can make you feel safe and of that relationship.
be met by other people.”
You always need to feel safe and validated,
Validation Need accounts. ey can make deposits in those accounts ... and they can make withdrawals.
Astrologically, Mars is in charge of your Physiological Needs bank account, the Moon is in charge of your Safety Needs bank account, Venus is in charge of your
Validation Needs bank account, and the Sun is in charge of your Self Actualization Needs bank account.
Saturn is the banker. Saturn monitors the balance in the need bank accounts, authorizes deposits and withdrawals, and imposes penalties when the balance in any account drops below the minimum required level.
Checklists and Watchlists
Saturn manages your need bank accounts by monitoring a set of unconscious checklists and watchlists. Whenever you experience something that meets a condition on a checklist, Saturn authorizes a deposit in the corresponding need bank account. When you experience something that meets a condition on
but how you expect to meet those needs depends on the nature of the relationship. e more intimate the relationship, the more you expect from your partner. You need to feel safe and validated in your professional relationships, but you don’t expect the same kind of behavior from your co-workers that you do from your romantic partner (and if you do, Janet from Human Resources would like a word with you). You don’t expect your employer to show appreciation for your work by baking you a cake. But a pat on the back from your romantic partner may not be su cient to meet your needs.
Wants vs. Needs
e only things that you need in relationships are safety and validation. As long as you’re feeling safe and validated in a relationship, that relationship will be successful.
Everything that you want in a relationship relates to a need. Each want is an item on a checklist, and you
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