Serendipity Press, 2011
Anger Mastery: Get Angery, Get Happy
Thanks for your interest in Anger Mastery! You’ve come to this page because you have questions about the book. Your biggest question is probably why you should buy a copy of Anger Mastery right now for only $9.95.
In response to that question, you might expect me to tell you why you need Anger Mastery. I’m sorry, Dave, but I can’t do that.
I don’t know you. How should I know if you need to buy a copy of Anger Mastery? Your name probably isn’t even Dave. This is the Internet: you could be anyone. You could even be one of those artificial intelligence computer robots. (HAL9000? Is that you?)
What I do know is that if you’ve stuck with me this far, you probably enjoy my sense of humor, and there’s a whole lot of that in Anger Mastery. That, in fact, is what sets Anger Mastery apart from just about every other self-help or self-improvement book out there: it’s funny. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot of important, practical, useful and powerful information in Anger Mastery that can help you to dramatically improve your life—but it’s a lot of fun to read.
Anger Mastery: Chapter Synopsis
Chapter 1 — Welcome to the Matrix
Chapter 1 is your wake-up call. You’ll have to choose between the Red Pill and the Blue Pill, and if you choose the Red Pill, your life will never be the same. You’ll wake up and face the reality of how unhappy you are. However, you will also learn what you can do about it and receive the tools you can use to become truly happy.
The reason you are so unhappy is the other people are stealing your energy from you. The energy they’re stealing is your anger. But when you learn to master your anger, you can take back your power, and use the energy of your anger to become truly happy.
The Anger Mastery Process has three phases.
In Phase 1, you will develop your ability to process more energy, and learn to use and direct that energy. You’ll also learn how to reclaim your power, step out of Victim Consciousness, and move into integrity.
In Phase 2, you’ll learn how to transform your relationship with anger by developing your safety muscles and maintaining a healthy balance in your Safety Need Account.
Finally, in Phase 3, you’ll learn how to channel and direct the energy of your anger in ways that are creative, supportive and powerful. You will discover your own, individual path to happiness.
Chapter 2 — Working Out Your Anger [Phase 1]
The main reason it’s so easy for other people to steal your energy is that you can’t handle it. You’re like a 120-volt appliance plugged into a 240-volt outlet. You have to increase the amount of energy you can handle. This is a simple, two-step process:
1. Get a gym membership.
2. Use it at least five times a week.
Seriously. In Chapter 2 you will learn why it’s so important to have a daily exercise routine, and how to create one that is appropriate for your level of physical fitness. All that matters is that you always work just outside of your comfort zone. This will allow you to use more of your own energy.
Chapter 3 — Victim Consciousness [Phase 1]
Here’s where you encounter the Big Concepts. You’ll learn what Victim Consciousness is, and why more than 85% of the world lives there full time (the rest of us have vacation homes there). You’ll learn about the true nature of reality, and discover the difference between the Universal “Big R” Reality and your personal “little r” reality.
You’ll also learn the difference between power and force. This is incredibly important! When you act from Victim Consciousness (which includes Anger), you use force, not power. Force is weak, negative, and always creates a counter-force. This means that any action you take from these levels of consciousness will always be counter-productive.
On the other hand, when you step out of Victim Consciousness and act from integrity, you use power, not force. Instead of conflict and resistance, you attract support and cooperation. Your intentions and goals almost always turn out better than you could imagine.
Chapter 4 — Leaving Victim Consciousness: Whose Business Is It? [Phase 1]
Moving out of Victim Consciousness is as simple as answering the question, “Whose business is it?” In Chapter 4, you’ll learn the difference between “My Business,” “Other People’s Business,” and “God’s Business.” Anytime you’re not in “My Business,” you’re in Victim Consciousness. Because you spend so much of your life in “Other People’s Business,” and so little time in “My Business,” you may need some help telling them apart. That’s what Chapter 4 is all about.
In order for something to be “My Business,” it must (a) affect you, personally, (b) be your responsibility, and (c) you must actually have the ability to influence or change it. If all three of these conditions aren’t met, the situation, whatever it is, is none of your business.
Chapter 5 — The Lure of Victim Consciousness [Phase 1]
You may be wondering why anyone would want to spend time in Victim Consciousness. The appeal of Victim Consciousness is all in the marketing. The ads and billboards and commercials all promise such wonderful experiences, and in such big, easy-to-read print. You find yourself wanting these experiences so badly that you don’t bother to read the fine print. But beware: the big print giveth, but the fine print taketh away.
Chapter 5 is a magnifying glass that lets you read the fine print. You’ll look at the most popular sales pitches to get you to move into Victim Consciousness, and then, for the first time, you’ll be able to read all of the fine print, and see what it is they’re really selling you.
Chapter 6 — Safety [Phase 2]
Phase 2 of the Anger Mastery Process is all about Safety: how to recognize when you’re not feeling Safe, and what to do in order to feel Safe. Even though Safety is one of the fundamental human needs, few people know how true Safety feels.
In Chapter 6, you’ll learn about your needs, and specifically, you’ll learn about your Need Bank Accounts. You’ll discover why you feel so stressed, so tired, and so wiped out most of the time (your ego keeps dialing 9-1-1). And you’ll learn about attachments, and why your attachments are the source of all of your suffering.
Finally, you’ll learn how to meet your Safety Needs using the Present Moment Awareness Safety Meditation.
Chapter 7 — A Closer Look at Anger [Phase 2]
It’s important to be able to identify anger correctly in the field; often, what you experience as anger may be something else entirely. You may be frustrated and impatient. Or you might just need a snack. You’ll learn how to identify and address anger in your relationships. (What’s the secret of stopping other people from pushing your buttons? Get rid of the buttons.) You’ll learn the difference between being angry and feeling angry, and the difference between pain (unavoidable) and suffering (optional). Finally, you’ll experience the true power of a tool so misunderstood that I can only refer to it as the “F-Word.”
Chapter 8 — The Value of Happiness [Phase 3]
Once you’ve moved out of Victim Consciousness and have learned how to maintain a healthy balance in your Safety Need Account, you’re ready to begin Phase 3 of the Anger Mastery Process and really get happy.
Happiness isn’t about getting what you want. It’s not even about meeting your needs. True happiness comes from aligning with your values. Your values are the things that you really care about. The problem is that you don’t really care about most of the things that you value. All of your life, you’ve collected other people’s values and adopted them as your own. Now that you’ve moved out of Victim Consciousness, most of those values are left behind in a storage unit there. In Chapter 8, you’ll learn how to clean out that storage unit, and get rid of everything that doesn’t fit.
Once you’ve cleared out all of the clutter, you can begin to ask yourself what it is that you really care about. By exploring the things that you want (and the things that you don’t want), you can discover your Core Values. Core Values are eternal qualities of the Divine, including Abundance, Balance, Beauty, Freedom, Harmony, Joy, Love, Order, Peace, Power, Unity and Wisdom. When you connect with these vibrations, you get to be truly happy.
This is an ongoing process, but now that you’ve done the work of Phase 1 and Phase 2, you have enough energy available to embark on this journey. Chapter 8 gives you guidance and advice so that you can more easily find your unique, individual path to happiness.