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how we “come out” to our families is a personal choice, of course. However, we should carefully consider the repercussions of coming out to Aunt Marge over cocktails. I suspect that Miss
are frequently the most embarrassing, at least to the subject of the story.
It’s relatively easy to brush o  embarrassing family
a bit more challenging when yet,” is always appropriate. we’re accompanied by our
Stupid Question #2: “Remember That
Time When You...?”
significant other, or even by friends, who haven’t heard the story before. Our response should remain the same, of course. We smile politely,
but not enthusiastically, and indulge the family member telling the story. If we maintain our composure and do not react, no matter how embarrassed we may be, it
Whenever we’re in a group of
people, we naturally focus
on the things that we have
in common. Discussing
our shared experiences
meets our validation needs
on a group level. When
we spend ti me with our
families, often the main
things that we share in
common occurred during
our childhood when we
actually lived with our
families.  e less we have in
common with our relatives
as adults, the more likely
we will  ll the awkward
pauses in the conversation by reminiscing about days gone by. Of course, the most entertaining stories
will take all of the fun out of the story.”
stories when everyone present has already heard them. It can be a bit more challenging when we’re accompanied by our signi cant other, or even by friends, who haven’t heard the story before. Our response should remain the same, of course. We smile politely, but not enthusiastically, and indulge the family member telling the story. If we maintain our composure and do not react, no matter how embarrassed we may be, it will take all of the fun out of the story, and eventually, the story will remain buried in the past where it belongs. Under no circumstances are we allowed to retaliate with our own amusing and embarrassing story.
Of course, it’s more di cult to maintain our composure when we’re
feeling embarrassed in front of someone whose opinion matters to us. When that someone is our signi cant
Manners would consider this answering rudeness with rudeness, although it is an admittedly  ne line. When in doubt, the non-gender-speci c, “I just haven’t met the right person
“It’s relatively easy to brush off
embarrassing family stories
when everyone present has
already heard them. It can be
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