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I had to comply with my client’s requests, and that meant ending my personal time and performing work for my client on the spot. At the time, it didn’t occur to me that I had any other options.
Approval: My unconscious expectations of approval also played a big part in this story. I justi ed my agreement and compliance because I expected that my client
would recognize how inconvenient it was calling me outside of business hours, and he would be especially grateful that I was immediately available to meet his design needs.
When I completed the  ier and didn’t get that approval, it added to my resentment.
So now, let’s question each of these expectations.
Were my expectations of convenience
met? And were they reasonable?
Clearly, my expectations of
convenience were not met.  at’s what triggered the
resentment in the  rst place.
 e expectations appear
to be reasonable. It’s reasonable to expect that
a business client would limit
his calls to traditional business hours. But when I question that assumption, it starts to fall apart.
itself was an interruption, but no more of an interruption than any other phone call.  e truth is that I
“It’s reasonable to expect that a business client would limit calls to traditional business hours. But when I question that assumption, it starts to fall apart.”
I never explicitly set up the expectation of business hours with this client. I work from home and keep  exible hours. More importantly, I had previously done
work for this client on Saturday evenings.
In light of that, it wasn’t reasonable for me to expect that my client would know which Saturdays I’m open to working and which I’m not.  e phone call
can’tblametheclientforviolating my expectations of convenience because my expectations were not reasonable. And when I consider the truth, that part of the story, along with that part of the resentment, disappears.
Were my expectations of agreement met?
And were they reasonable?
Most of my expectations of agreement related to the structure of my business relationship with this client. Since I never explicitly
de ned my availability or the hours I’m willing to work,
it’s unreasonable for me to expect my client to agree to call only during business
hours.
Once again, when I consider
this truth, another part of my resentment disappears.
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